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So for this part you’re going to need to expand your mind and overcome some serious cultural programming. You’ve probably never told someone you care about them but refuse to date them exclusively. And I am so happy that I maintained those open doors, because if I had been exclusive with some other girl, I wouldn’t have you in my life. Me: Before we ask this question of each other, we need to set some ground rules.You can place all the cultural software you want on top of it. Now I don’t tell you this so that you immediately break up with your girlfriend and live in accordance with “natural order.” Nor do I tell you so that you can calmly explain it to your girlfriend and begin to comfortably date openly. I tell you this so you can say, “SCREW what I’ve been told is the natural order. I’m going to do what feels right to me.”Whether you prefer monogamy or non-traditional relationships doesn’t matter much to me. Do you want 3 girls you are seeing who love you as much as an exclusive girlfriend would, and the freedom to meet new girls as well? I decided that if you offered me the most perfect girl in the world on one hand, and the most perfect girl in the world plus the freedom to meet other great girls on the other, I’d take the other. If you want to know who I have been with I will tell you things that don’t violate their privacy. Last month, I wrote to two men that I was very interested in.The good news is that both of them wrote me back and I have been seeing both for the past 2-3 weeks.
I didn’t know how to deal with two men texting and calling me or how to handle their sexual advances.
Things have been going well, and I give a lot of credit to what I have learned from your book, emails and this site.
However, this is not something I have ever done before and I am having a hard time with the idea of juggling.
I threw all my eggs into his basket and we dated until he unexplainly disappeared into the night.
Dating one man at a time is a mistake on several levels, that is: You invest your time, energy and emotions in a man and then weeks or months later you decide he’s the wrong man.
Not long ago, I got one of the best compliments of my life. When I asked her impression of me she said, “I think you are with a lot of women and you treat them all very well.” It made me so happy because there is this cultural belief that if you see multiple women, you are a monster and a heartless player. You can see multiple girls and still be a good dude. You need to do things differently than all of your role models have before you (after all, how many people do you know in multiple healthy relationships? Any anthropologist worth his salt will tell you that Homo sapiens evolved in non-monogamous settings (though there is still debate over whether those were more harem-like Gorilla societies or free loving bonobo societies). You need to be crystal clear and confident on this because if you choose open relationships, you will face some heavy emotional pushing to compromise on this point. If you’re caught off guard, you might revert to an easy lie. Seriously, proper planning is 50% of leading a moral life. I am happy to talk about this and I want you to feel comfortable telling me about people you’ve been with if you want.